As many people know, the third installment of the Twilight series, Eclipse, opened in theaters last night. And aside from the riveting action-packed scenes and the numerous close ups of the tight, taut, and tan wolf boy that kept fans of all ages deeply engaged--> there lay the saga of a love triangle at the core of the movie's plot. Edward loves Bella and Bella loves Edward, but Jacob loves Bella and Bella just might love Jacob too?...Edward is everything Bella wants while Jacob is everything she could ever need. To be with Edward, to truly be with him, she would have to sacrifice all that she knows and loves in exchange for a life-changing romance. To be with Jacob, she can be herself--nothing has to change. All she has to do is give herself and her love to him, and in return she gets someone who promises to love and protect her for as long as he lives. (I think we can all guess I’m on Team Jacob lol) Two very different choices, two separate emotional (and physical) connections.
But enough with the Twi-hard recap... A discussion topic was proposed by my sister through the following questions: Can't a woman be in love with two men who can offer her two totally different things? Can't a woman be torn between what she knows is good for her and what she wants for herself? Can't a woman be selfish for just a little and partake in both? Hmm...
I have quite a few thoughts on this matter.
I Love You.
Three words, eight letters, indefinite possibilities, endless potential. Love, is not a word to be taken lightly because its meaning should never be taken lightly. But how unfortunate it is for the English language to only have one word to describe both how someone feels about their favorite dessert and how they feel about the individual who completes their soul! But I digress.
To love someone is to give yourself fully to another--not a piece, not a majority, ALL of who you are! And how can you fully give yourself to two people? The answer is that you can't! ...Especially if you expect an individual to give of themselves completely to you in return. Now an argument has been made that men do this all the time. You know what I have to say to that: Men are dogs! HaHaHa I kid (sort of). But in all seriousness, PEOPLE do this. We, the people, are greedy. I would say people like to have their cake and eat it too, but I do not quite understand that saying. (If someone had cake, is it not expected of them to eat it?) I will instead say; people like to have their cake and a few scoops of ice cream on the side!
Being the indecisive person that I always label myself as, I can completely empathize with the individuals that find themselves in “love” with more than one person. On the other hand, also being the hopeful (never hopeless) romantic that I am, I kind of want to say the person in “love” with two people is full of shit! However, I try to never pass judgment. All the questions listed above can be solved in two steps: 1) getting to know/being real with one’s self and 2) being a considerate individual.
Now every woman (who am I kidding, every man too) has a mental, and at times tangible, list of what they look for in a romantic partner. Some would say that you are never going to find someone with EVERYTHING on that list. I used to be one of those people, until I was blessed enough to have found someone special that has EVERYTHING I could ever want, need, and then some <3. style=""> Because the heart wants what it wants. It is not going to change over time, and you cannot convince it otherwise. And if you are, by chance, involved with more than one person (emotionally, physically, etc..) PLEASE do not do the concept of, or even the word, love a disservice by labeling it as such. It is more than likely you are following your head(s) and not your heart. But hey, to each their own.
Lastly, on being a considerate individual. If the roles were reversed, and you were the one head over heels in love “the one” how would you feel if s/he cuddled up to another at night and whispered those three words, eight letters that you cherish so much?: I love you.
